Leadership Mentoring Group for Young Men – Saturdays at 8 am in Seal Beach (Updated)

Mentoring Group Purpose: To prepare young men to be leaders for Christ in the church and in their homes.

Commitment: To meet twice a month on Saturday mornings (the second and fourth Saturday of the month) from 8-9 am at Crema Cafe in Seal Beach for six months.

Participants: A group of 4-6 men in their 20’s (ish)  who want to grow as leaders in the church and their families.  While previous leadership at Grace Seal Beach is not necessary, participants will need to be members of GCCSB during the duration of the group.  Both single and married men are encouraged to participate.

Homework:

1. Reading – During the course of the year, we will read both books and articles together, and being prepared to discuss the reading is a necessary part of the group. The participants will be expected to read one chapter per week (about 15 minutes).

2. Scripture – Each week when we meet we’ll work through the Scripture passage of the coming week’s sermon together.  In preparation for this, each member will have read, meditated upon, and prayed through the passage.  More on how to do this will be covered in the first couple meetings together. (about 45 minutes)

3. Sermon evaluation – Each member will evaluate the previous Sunday’s sermon using a form I’ll give you.  If you cannot be at church on Sunday, you’ll be expected to listen to the recording from the church website (no significant time commitment beyond church attendance).

Group rules: 

1. Availability – This group isn’t for everyone, as it does have a specific purpose and time commitment expectation.  If you aren’t able to make the commitment this year, hold off until a future time.

2. Faithfulness – We’ll meet about 12 times so if you expect to miss more than a couple of these, this probably isn’t the year for you to take on this commitment.

3. Honesty/Confidentifality – This is more than just a teaching group – it’s about sharing life together with a team of brothers. If you don’t want to share anything or if you don’t think you can keep other’s confidence, this isn’t the group for you.  Note: If you violate the confidence of other guys in the group, you’ll be asked to not come back.

4. Teachable – I’m sure I’ll learn a ton from you during the course of the year, but if you don’t expect to learn from me, too, then why bother being a part of this group?

Application:

1. Why do you want to be a part of this group?  What are you hoping to get out of participating?
2. What concerns you about participating?  Do you have any hesitations about the expectations and commitment?
3. How do you see a group like this helping to prepare you to a be a leader in Christ’s church?

Mentoring Group for Young Men – Fridays at 7 am in Seal Beach

Mentoring Group Purpose: To prepare young men to be leaders for Christ in the church and in their homes. 

 

Commitment: To meet once a week on Friday mornings from 7-8 am at Crema Cafe in Seal Beach for one year. 

 

Participants: A group of 4-6 men in their 20’s and 30’s who want to grow as leaders in the church and their families.  While previous leadership at Grace Seal Beach is not necessary, participants will need to be members of GCCSB during the duration of the group.  Both single and married men are encouraged to participate. 

 

 

Homework

1. Reading – During the course of the year, we will read both books and articles together, and being prepared to discuss the reading is a necessary part of the group. The participants will be expected to read one chapter per week (about 15 minutes).  

 

2. Scripture – Each week when we meet we’ll work through the Scripture passage of the coming week’s sermon together.  In preparation for this, each member will have read, meditated upon, and prayed through the passage.  More on how to do this will be covered in the first couple meetings together. (about 45 minutes)

 

3. Sermon evaluation – Each member will evaluate the previous Sunday’s sermon using a form I’ll give you.  If you cannot be at church on Sunday, you’ll be expected to listen to the recording from the church website (no significant time commitment beyond church attendance). 

 

Group rules: 

1. Availability – This group isn’t for everyone, as it does have a specific purpose and time commitment expectation.  If you aren’t able to make the commitment this year, hold off until a future time.  

 

2. Faithfulness – We’ll meet about 48 times during 2011 (no meetings on 1/20, 8/3, 8/10, 11/23).  If you expect to miss more than 6-7 of these 48, this probably isn’t the year for you to take on this commitment. 

 

3. Honesty/Confidentifality – This is more than just a teaching group – it’s about sharing life together with a team of brothers. If you don’t want to share anything or if you don’t think you can keep other’s confidence, this isn’t the group for you.  Note: If you violate the confidence of other guys in the group, you’ll be asked to not come back. 

 

4. Teachable – I’m sure I’ll learn a ton from you during the course of the year, but if you don’t expect to learn from me, too, then why bother being a part of this group? 

 

Application: 

 

1. Why do you want to be a part of this group?  What are you hoping to get out of participating? 
 
 
 
2. What concerns you about participating?  Do you have any hesitations about the expectations and commitment? 
 
 
 
3. How do you see a group like this helping to prepare you to a be a leader in Christ’s church? 

  

What happens when one become two?

I was on facebook yesterday and came across the profile of a friend of mine who got divorced.  She chose to excise every picture of her ex from her page.  I can’t blame her, but it made her page feel hollow. Whole sections of her life were just…. missing.  Their lives were intertwined, and could not be neatly separated without her losing a huge part of her own story.

I looked up the husbands page next. He had left in the pictures of them together (even from their wedding). It was a different approach, but just as painful to look through. It was a haunting of a life that once was, now gone.

While I care about these people, they are “facebook friends,” a category of people that means: I wish we were still friends, but we live in different places now and do not see each other any more. I don’t know what catalyzed the divorce, and I’m certainly not going to cast judgment or blame.  But I was sad as I looked at their pages.

Divorce takes two stories that have become one and tried to pull them apart, and it cannot be done, any more than you can remove any trace of your ex from your facebook page.

When God pop quizzes your heart

Yesterday God threw a pop quiz at my heart. Our senior pastor was out of town, so I was speaking at our 8 am service, which I only do a half-dozen times a year. I was anxious, and wanted to make a good impression.

Two problems: First, the text was about Jesus’ return (Matthew 24:29-51), a topic I’m still growing in my understanding of. Second, my anxiety bubbled over into the sermon to the point that I was making jokes that weren’t funny and following them with the always powerful: “I thought that was funny.” Ouch.

The service ends, and even though people are kind at the door (not even one, “Don’t worry, you’ll get better!”, which is my all-time favorite deflating compliment), I’m looking for a way to redeem my effort.

The 8 am service is the most (*ahem*) mature of our three morning services, so the couple in their 20’s stood out as unusual. I see them over by the coffee cart and make a beeline over there, hoping to do some good pastoral schmoozing and help them feel welcome. After talking with them for a moment or two about their new move to our community, their newlywed-ness, and our church, I’m interrupted by someone else.

Slightly irritated (“These are new, young, cool people to our church!”), I turn around to see an older woman in our church who has some mental delays asking me to pray for her.

Pop quiz: Who’s more important to you, Bob, the young and beautiful or the older and more difficult?

Let’s just say that my prayer was short. I didn’t brush her completely off, but I didn’t throw my whole heart into it, either. By the time I finished, the young couple was gone.

James 2:1-4 says,

My brothers and sisters, believers in our glorious Lord Jesus Christ must not show favoritism. Suppose a man comes into your meeting wearing a gold ring and fine clothes, and a poor man in filthy old clothes also comes in. If you show special attention to the man wearing fine clothes and say, “Here’s a good seat for you,” but say to the poor man, “You stand there” or “Sit on the floor by my feet,” have you not discriminated among yourselves and become judges with evil thoughts?

Every day I’m told to show favoritism by the culture around me.  Certain people are more attractive, younger, older, thinner, stronger, funnier, or smarter, and therefore more deserving of my time and respect. Jesus is different though.

As James continues in verse 5:

Listen, my dear brothers and sisters: Has not God chosen those who are poor in the eyes of the world to be rich in faith and to inherit the kingdom he promised those who love him?

I hope the cool, attractive people come back. I need to be surrounded by fellow beautiful people (hey, don’t laugh!). But God calls people from every IQ, every income bracket, and every store in the mall, from the Big and Tall to Forever 21 to Wal-Mart to Nordstroms. May we never appoint ourselves as judges.