“If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother.” Matthew 18:15
Here are some things I believe:
– I sometimes (maybe even often) do ugly things. I say ugly things. I think ugly things. I sin.
– Because Jesus died on the cross, my ugly things are forgiven by God. They do not define me.
– Still, other people see those ugly things.
– Some people in my life love me enough to tell me about those ugly things. They help me notice sin that I have become blind to or would prefer to ignore.
So, in light of all that, why am I surprised when I’m confronted?
Knowing that I’ll say, think, or do something (maybe many things) this week that are ugly, and that at least some of those things will be observed by people that love me, shouldn’t I expect someone to come to me and talk about it?
And since I’m already forgiven for those things, shouldn’t I (and other Christians) be the easy people in the world to confront?